I started this site because I have always had a love-hate relationship with food. I love food, and hate the effects. This was not really evident until I left university and landed my first proper job. It then became pretty obvious that I would need to pay attention to what and how I ate or face the effects of over-eating.
So I went out to check what others were saying about this. It’s a big world, surely someone out there knows the answer.
And they did. I found lots of answers. In fact I found many “experts” on the subject willing to share their expertise. They made it sound very simple and logical and that’s what their advice was. Actually doing what they said, that was another matter.
I found advice exceptionally easy to give out and incredibly difficult to follow. If it involved leaving food in my plate then it wasn’t going to happen. I discovered an exceptional talent in talking myself into ordering dessert whenever something on the menu took my fancy, and it generally did.
So much for willpower.
It was only years later, while studying NLP and hypnosis for entirely unrelated reasons that I realised that these experts were totally wrong. Their advice is entirely logical and possibly correct, sure. It would have been perfect if I were some sort of puzzle waiting to be solved, but that’s not what I am. I wasn’t dealing with a conscious problem that I could just unravel, discover the answer for and move on.
My problem, I discovered, was an unconscious one.
An unconscious problem, I learned, is the sort of problem where a decision has been made at an unconscious level, and I then justify it to myself in various ways until I’m convinced to act on it. And while a conscious problem simply requires an intellectual, rational solution, an unconscious problem is a bit more tenacious. Psychological studies say that the unconscious mind is very good at this justification process and some scientific researchers think our decisions are made emotionally, and then justified and rationalised until we accept them.
As I became an expert at dealing with unconscious problems, I have always seen those related to weight and eating as more significant, and while I deal with a variety of different issues my love for this field has resulted in this website and the associated practice.